you may be right but i think you're doing it wrong
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1. i like myself regardless of if this other person likes me 2. i will be fine, even if i fuck this up 3. every time im asked is an opportunity to practice, tweak something 4. write what you've been up to down
it's like rapping tbh. you learn snippets and lines that work and then you mix and match them for the context.
you don't want to be deciding word by word but phrase by phrase.
everytime i sit down to give rust a try i get catapulted down some esoteric rabbit hole about conceptual abstraction over computer memory that rust invented for my safety that isn't fully fleshed out conceptually or in implementation
all my rust programs are provably safe though, because i never finish them and no one ever uses them
it's already a part of secret management for machines in secure cloud environments
orgs should support what people do
thats the whole point of engineering, picking/building the right solutions for the problems and context
some stuff just needs a vps, a php file and an sqlite db and it will scale
other stuff might need container orchestration or anywhere in-between (or beyond). it should depend on the context though and we should be prepared to change strategy as needed
i suspect it's tree sitter under the hood
interested to see when the pendulum swings back on this
it reads more like a guide on working for you, less a guide for working with you.
these should give people the context and "why" of working with you, not the prescriptive steps required.
the use of "we" everywhere is the tell here. the readme is about you, not me.
glad you have this experience, i dont think all of us do. i care deeply but seem to forget people exist and that makes me sad and dislike myself. i wish i could just remember. id still have so many friends if i did.
must be nice to be able to take a break and not have your entire life fall apart.
good for you i guess but i've spent enough of my life self-flagelating, pretending everything is my personal failing thanks.
quite thankful i can ask for help, be heard and see improvement.
i had a chat with the ceo of the charity when i got diagnosed to see if i could help and he is one of the few people i've spoken to in the space that is actively considering adhd in the workplace.
my favourite parts are:
- before criticising timeliness, ask if timeliness is critical to the role. if it isn't, have a policy of flexible time, make it ok to make up lateness later. if it is, find ways to make it less so with scheduling and partnering
- hot desking / open offices: make provisions for people to have quiet and uninterrupted work environments. perhaps that is alternate office space, providing noise cancelling headphones.
- meeting timeliness: fully integrate calendar and reminder systems. for many with adhd something not in the calendar may aswell not exist.
there are loads more but most of the key point boil down to: stop immediately thinking that every time someone doesn't meet your expectations, that it's a personal failure of theirs. start considering how the environment (physical, social, technological, conceptual) might be an impediment to them. start questioning your assumptions around what is "actually" necessary for a role and what you think is necessary.
my personal addition to this is: lots of the ways in which i disappoint people ultimately derive from an innate fear of disappointing people. the irony is not lost on me. the answer, ive found, is to create for myself an environment in which a) my colleagues can separate their disappointment in my actions/ outcomes from me. b) where i can communicate my issues / worries as and when they arrive without fear.
my favourite one has been telling people that a particular task will be far to boring for me to do alone and being able to partner up with someone else to get it done. or that asking me to remember to do something in prep for a meeting is a bad idea and to either pop it straight into my calendar, do it now or make some time during the meeting to do it. that last one is basically the amazon meeting agenda policy where the start of every meeting is reading the notes for the meeting, it's adhd dream.
i am reminded to leave this caveat: yes, these are problems we all face, the questions is: do the problems cause a material impact on your life (lost jobs, failed relationships (love/friends), missed opportunities, states of being that you cant escape). the difference between having adhd and not is whether the problems cause disorder in your life currently, and have done so for much of your life.
[0]: https://rom-rb.org/
for the relatively simple case of parsing cli arguments i would want an equally simple api. "is this string a valid representation of a number?" and "what number does this string represent?" should be separate apis.
even in language implementation, i'd want the identification of number tokens to be separate from the parsing of those number tokens. i would then have another, separate api for "where does the first number end in this string?" which would probably more likely be "return to me the next substring from this string that represents a number"
that we should hold ourselves in unconditional positive regard and that we can strive for more
imo, this article is attempting to push the pendulum back towards the positive regard as, and i would agree, the author feels that were too far into striving
i want to gently point out, without implying intention, that this is, in it's self, a racist belief
if they match, it's probably on point
if not, its probably not worth it
i joke, but the experience you had would usually have been buffered by your manager, whos job it is to communicate with you about requirements and feedback from above
youre work does not define you. be careful letting these comments impact your perception of your self. equally, mine it for ways you could improve (if thats a goal of yours), raw feedback is the best feedback but accepting it is a muscle you have to work on slowly