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I’m keenly aware of attention value and try my best not to reinforce bad behaviour. But if he’s doing something truly dangerous I cannot ignore that. I understand that even that can be dealt with differently, e.g. in a calm and non reactive manner or get upset (reaction). I mostly try to stay calm, but of course it’s not always possible. My spouse on the other hand just doesn’t get it and always reacts which I know is a huge problem.
Advise on therapy is also good and something I was considering. Just don’t really know where to start I guess. If you have any actionable advice here would be great.
Thank you.
I use AWS cloud a lot, and almost never use any VMs or instances. Most instances I use are along the lines of a simple anemic box for a bastion host or some such.
I use higher level abstractions (services) to simplify solutions and outsource maintenance of these services to AWS.
Some PostgreSQL query errors are not handled correctly. It results in a fatal handling which restarts the entire server. It takes up to 30 seconds for the full reload meanwhile users are getting 504s.
The error is benign and totally retriable in the userland. It’s a query timeout. No need to handle it as fatal.
I maintain this repo, and we hand roll the stats page, but if we could get that for free it’d be so great!
https://github.com/moltar/typescript-runtime-type-benchmarks