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Edit: Something interesting that I found along the way is that I do like small towns and I do like the city. I found that when I start to notice that feeling of "it's all too much" that I need to go do something physical instead of sitting at a computer or scrolling on my phone. So maybe that's go wash the dishes, or maybe that's go for a walk or bike ride, the key being that I need to balance my time between the digital world and physical world as much as possible to feel good about myself.
1 - The little things matter more than you know. Yes, spending time with your kids is very important, but also the little things that you like to do, or your partner likes to do are also very important.
2 - You’re going to get frustrated over the smallest things, learn to take a breath and let it go. Realize it’s really just a journey, and to enjoy that journey, and all the messiness that comes from it.
3 - If you and / or your partner don’t actively lead or choose what you’re doing during the day. Your kid will choose for you. It’s going to be a struggle every day, but that’s just part of the game.
4 - Raise your kid the best you know how, the world needs more good people. The world needs more people that understand how to forgive instead of holding a grudge and getting offended at everything.
5 - Make sure they have some structure in their day, and what they learn, but make sure to go spend time being a kid with them because those imagined worlds are just as real to them as this world is to you.
Enjoy, breathe, relax, forgive, listen, lead.
- There are a lot of different systems, you need to find one that works for you.
- Nearly everyone struggles with trying to focus when there are so many things demanding our attention, prioritizing is what helps you focus on what's most important.
- You're human and there will always the temptation to switch to the new "app" because somehow a new company has figured out how to get things done. In reality, it's always a struggle.
- Reading a new article about how to focus is like reading a book of how to run a 4 minute mile. You need to get out there and struggle and find what works for you.
- AVOID the online BS that people tell you about how their day is so planned out. 4am wake up, 4:30am workout, 5am get ready, 6am study (it's mostly nonsense). Life is too unpredictable to be able to follow that 100% and if you plan your life like that you'll be let down when reality strikes and you miss something on your scheduled because a friend/family/coworker needed help with x.
How do I manage my life? One word, Todoist.
- Make projects, add things to those projects with a date that you'd like each done and give it a priority. - Look at the Today screen and do the highest priority things first.
What benefit does this system add?
- You'll always know what's most important and where to spend your attention.