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You have called out a desire to have more meaningful relationships, so I am not going to focus on meeting people, though the more people you meet the more you will find people with things in common.
Instead think about what makes deep connections? Shared experiences. Fellow feeling. Giving and accepting affection.
I am Australian and I am lucky enough to have moved to New York for work. I met some friends through Australian connections but the deepest connections I have made are through a random conversation at a networking event that led to some drinks, and then to an introduction to a group of like minded poets, artists and technologists.
But even then I felt on the outside.
The thing that changed that has been going to them for help with things in my life (support as I struggled with relationship trouble, homesickness, stress from work) as well as spending time in their company individually and as a group in both casual and more intense settings (camping). Part of the help I asked for I guess was their acceptance and approval of some poetry I was writing, which I performed for them. I guess that my thesis is shallow experiences make for shallow friendships and deep experiences (which by their nature require you to have your guard down) make deep friendships.
"Breaking into a clique" is a bad paradigm I think, you don't want to break in, you want to be brought in.
The only other thing I would say is seek people who are also seeking. They will be the ones who have arrived from elsewhere, the ones who are perhaps on the edges of the society that you are in. They want what you want.
"We are not Homo sapiens, Wise Man. We are the third chimpanzee. What distinguishes us from the ordinary chimpanzee Pan troglodytes and the bonobo chimpanzee Pan paniscus, is something far more subtle than our enormous brain, three times as large as theirs in proportion to body weight. It is what that brain makes possible. And the most significant contribution that our large brain made to our approach to the universe was to endow us with the power of story. We are Pan narrans, the storytelling ape. (II: 325)
...if you understand the power of story, and learn to detect abuses of it, you might actually deserve the appellation Homo sapiens."
His home page is one of those amazing corners of the internet I really enjoy revisiting.
And as a fun way to pass time I also like his project http://chartgame.com/
http://www.businessinsider.com/people-who-became-successful-...
There may be a better version of this article out there, but the essence is that it's not too late to start to be great at something. So don't let the stress of a successful 30 year old get you wound up.
Cryptonomicon I am at about 15 reads (including audio book listens a few more), and maybe a handful for Snow Crash, Anathem and Reamde.
My book of choice for re-reading is Not a Penny More, Not a Penny Less, by Jeffrey Archer. I must be at 50 re-reads of that now, and I own two first editions. Strange what catches your mind!
TLDR: Oregon, Michigan, Idaho and Vermont are the worst offenders with over 5% of their kindergarten students having nonmedical exemptions.
One guy owns 72% of the company.
Is so utterly important when lives are on the line that it seems difficult to refute, and I'd be interested to see someone try in fact, but let's take that premise, and add to it: "Ultimately, a real understanding of history means that we face NOTHING new under the sun." + "Alex the Great would not be in the least bit perplexed by the enemy that we face right now in Iraq, and our leaders going into this fight do their troops a disservice by not studying (studying, vice just reading) the men who have gone before us."
Let's take a jump into the hacker news/YC/Lean Startup milieu and apply the same lesson: You should learn from those who have gone before. Study their decision making processes, study their customers, read whatever you can read to find the people who have done what you are doing.
Chances are the business that you are creating (even if it is going to "disrupt" some industry or another) is still dealing with the same issues that have always been issues. It's going to have HR, marketing, leadership, operations and a million other hassles that are similar to those that have come before. Similar because people haven't changed that much.
If you are a startup person, working 100 hour weeks and learning by doing, you should still find some time to read and learn from the mistakes and triumphs of those who came before. Don't burn the investors cash relearning the lessons that someone else already learnt, save your runway for iterating on the true unknowns of your problem domain.
Most people get a "C" or passing grade only in Secondary and Tertiary education. As an Aussie trying to impress American employers (in the past) with my credentials, this goes some way to explaining why they list "GPA 4.0" as required. I know practically nobody with a 4.0 GPA in Sydney.
Here is some more reading: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Academic_grading_in_Australia
Even if your only change was to place the server into the liquid you get a nice bump in efficiency of cooling by having the thermal bulk of the liquid transferring heat quickly away from the hot spots. The liquid itself would then cool on contact with the air, the much larger surface area acting kind of like a big radiator.