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sleeplessinSLC

33 karma · joined July 21, 2014

I'm a software engineer in Salt Lake City. I have a lovely wife who I love to spend my time with and a number of kids running around! I code sometimes. Mostly I "meet".

If you'd like to get a hold of me you can at nosleepslc at that gmail thingie.

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sleeplessinSLC··on Ask HN: What to do when you are successful, hate it, and can't seem to change?
This is pretty much in line with what happens to me. Though I don't say no, I just leave. Another commenter asked why I am having to look for work so often, it is entirely by choice.

Frankly, I shouldn't be complaining as I have not been fired or laid off and a lot of others have it much harder in this job market. But getting into these situations and then looking up every 6 months and saying "Damn it, here I am again" gets old.

sleeplessinSLC··on Ask HN: What to do when you are successful, hate it, and can't seem to change?
I honestly hadn't thought of it like that. Thinking this through with a number of other comments here and maybe I need to talk to a therapist about being less of a push over.
sleeplessinSLC··on Ask HN: What to do when you are successful, hate it, and can't seem to change?
Honestly, I do have a hard time saying no. Rarely is the conversation "We'd like to increase your responsibility, here is some more pay and a new title". It's more like "Hey, your opinion in stand up this morning was awesome, can you sit in on this meeting." This seems to lead into "You can't make it to yet another meeting about strategy with the investor's? Do you know what will happen if you're not there! It's the end of the world!"

But, those are excuses that I constantly make. Your advise is solid, and much appreciated. I need to really strengthen up and just say no.