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I got on antidepressants and that helped, though it came with it's own set of problems. I started seeing counselors, reading self-help books, I went through 6 months of cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBTi), working with a neurologist to get migraines under control, seeking help wherever I could. It has been a slow process but I'm doing a lot better. I'm still nowhere near where I was cognitively. In fact I don't know that has improved much at all. And it's only been in the past year that I've began to understand my decline as a result of jumping into marriage, fatherhood, and home ownership without the necessary skills to handle them. I'm hopeful things will continue to improve, I've learned an enormous amount about life, fatherhood, marriage, love, forgiveness, hope, and priorities.
If you are a young parent, or considering being a parent soon, work on yourself. Ensure you have the skills you need or your life (and the lives of those near to you) will become a bag of utter despair filled with shit.
If I print documentation I'm going to do it with my home printer and use a 3-ring binder so I think the cost should be do-able. I haven't specced it out exactly but paper is cheap and toner is... cheaper than paying someone else :shrug:
- Practice self denial and doing things that hurt, such as fasting and cold exposure (like a cold shower or cold bath). These are good for people in general. I'm not sure how universal this is but doing these things gives me an incredible sense of accomplishment which makes it easier to do other difficult things that I want to do but otherwise avoid
Good luck, these things are designed to be addictive and our biology has not caught up to give us sufficient built-in resistances. This stuff is very difficult, and kudos for reaching out! You can do this!
In Emacs I’ve had good experience with gptel as well but I prefer aider for the coding workflow
I am using ScreenZen to lock my MacBook from 11:35-1:35 every weekday to force myself to workout, spend time with family, do misc errands/chores that are best done during the day, eat healthy, etc.
This system isn’t perfect but it’s very good progress
1. Absurd claim that file names aren’t important in a stack trace 2. Claims they’re sharing a feature of F# that is never used, then later reveals they’ve been studying F# for 3 months 3. Then this statement about tagged unions
Our goal is to build the most comprehensive, concise, and free system design library on the internet.
This growing library is meant to be a resource for you to leverage as you learn about system design and prepare for your interview.Below are two resources that have greatly influenced my opinion, the first is a lengthy podcast episode about dopamine, the second is a book about reversing “downward spirals”, specifically focused on depression but it applies to anyone. There’s a workbook that I highly recommend if you want high focus on application and less on the neuroscience
https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/controlling-your-dopamin...
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/21413760-the-upward-spir...
It’s wise to get the LLM to think more broadly and more collaboratively with questions like, “What question should I ask you that I haven’t yet” and similar