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The shift is in how you describe yourself. "I am a coder" places your identity in a function that AI is now performing. Grief, shame, embarrassment, fear comes along with that. "I work as a coder" or "I write code" places it in a behaviour which is something you consciously practice, adapt, change.
"My peers are all bad", "Management has no idea what's going on", "My boss is out of touch", "My staff keep screwing up".
But if you're consistently seeing the problems while everyone else becomes defensive, you (that think that way) need to learn how to communicate effectively in a way that doesn't result in being 'the baddie' and solve the interpersonal dynamic along with the technical problems. "Crucial Conversations" is a good place to start.
Was only BASIC, but needed as there wasn't any way to save...
The nipple is the universal interface. Everything else is an abstraction.
Is it friendly to tell someone they've got spinach in their teeth? Is it friendly to agree with everything someone says? Is it friendly to ask about someones dead parents? Is it friendly to insult? Is it friendly to talk around a personal issue, never stating the obvious?