Glad to hear your daughter is doing well! Your story really captures a lot about the experience of attempting to find some sense of control in a situation where you feel powerless. What do you think it would have taken to develop the emotional stability to approach this differently (i.e. being able to show up at the hospital) or do you believe that experience is the only way to learn some of these lessons?
I couldn't agree more, that said, I believe the difficulty for new hires in software engineering typically comes from the relentless focus on coding interviews.