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Then one day I did try to commit suicide by slitting my wrists. It didn't quite work out. It wasn't as easy as they show in the movies :). Then I had a realization. I was looking for some external factor to make me feel better...my mom, my friends, etc. and I was very self-pitiful. I realized that if I wanted to get out of my situation, only I can do something about it.
I let go of the past and started over. I got a paid internship..moved out of my parents house and concentrated on just being self-sustaining. I made new friends and tried to be as social as possible...being around happy people rubs of on you :)
I feel like you are still in the phase where you are going over your past and keep thinking that you should have done something different. You have to stop thinking about the past. Hopefully, saying it out loud here helped you a little with that. I would suggest you to concentrate on the present. Take small steps. Do one thing each day to improve your situation.
A few more tips that helped me deal with my depression: - Write out your feelings like you did now - Try your best not be alone. Either go to the library or a coffee shop to do job applications or other work. - Don't take your friends and your dad too seriously. Most people do not know how to deal with a depressed person. They usually say the exact wrong thing :)
Best of luck!
1. An API to connect to non-profits and donate to them.
2. An API to retrieve college textbook information..like what are all the courses for the fall semester and their required textbooks.
A few suggestions: 1. It wasn't clear to me what you do right away. The book image is what helped me. Then I still wasn't sure if this was a digital book or not till I read the "How it Works". 2. I think having an example for a wedding book would be useful.
Good luck!!
Edit: Just found the examples :)
I use Google Spreadsheets to share "to do's" with my co-founder. We have a column for priorities and my co founder set it up such that items are colored coded according to priority level.
And I recently started using lazy meter for my day to day to do list. I try to put down at least 5 to do's at the start of the day and try to get though them. This has been working well for me.
Having said that, I don't think American's understand how fortunate they are. This is the place where we get clean water and electricity 24/7, women can drive, people can criticize their govt. and not be killed for it and there is an awesome mix of culture and opportunity. The current state of the U.S doesn't bother as much. This is still the place I want to be and raise my children.
I don't think America has lost it's stand in the world. People may judge America but given the chance most people across the world would want to move here :)
I thought I would get my beta version out by now but it's been hard. Some changes that I have made that have helped me:
- I do not work more than 40 hours at my work anymore..even if it feels like it's the end of the world. Surprisingly, this has made me more focused at work. I do the same amount of work in a shorter amout of time.
- As other hackers have mentioned, I set up a scheduled time to work on my start-up. Initally, I began with working on the weekends but I was too distracted by other fun things that I could be doing. The times that work best for me are during lunch breaks and before/after work during weekdays.
- I made it clear to my husband that I will be busy during the weekdays but free over the weekends. This way he had no major expections of me over the weekdays. I think getting him Starcraft 2 also helped :P (j/k)
- I wanted to read books about how to start a business, google analytics, etc..I pretty much paid fines to the library without going though a chapter. Then I discovered audio books. I listen to them on my drive to work. I finished 4-hour work week in 2-2 weeks and am onto to another one.
Lessons learned for the future:
- Don't spend too much time designing the site...just get a template that has worked for others.
- Don't have deadlines at the end of the summer. I noticed that I am more busy over the weekends in the summer.
- Don't venture into new technologies if you already have skills that you can do with.
Sometimes, you just have to do both. You'll figure out the way that works best for you. Hang in there.
We just sold a few things around the house and made about $250.
I love the simplicity of the site!
It would help if the sections of code that you add in each step were highlighted somehow. I definitely like the step-by-step approach.
I started looking into other options. From what I understand, startups are for people who want to run a business and a lifestyle business is for people who want to own a business with a focus on maintaining their preferred lifestyle.
I am choosing to go the lifestyle business route. We’ll see how it goes :)
So, why don't I take his advice? Because I wasn't asking him to tell me what to do. I just want him to listen to me. I know what I need to do to solve my problem. It just makes me feel better to talk about the problem out loud :)
My advice: Your girlfriend will figure it out by herself. Just be there for her.