violetgarden

Much much better! I have a lot more energy. There were times that I was so tired at work, I would go in the bathroom and lay my head on the toilet paper dispenser for a moment. I was just so desperate. I felt like I took Benadryl. Looking back, it’s obvious that isn’t normal behavior. But yes, now I can stay awake for a normal amount of time. Such an easy fix, but what a difference.

I quit reddit a year or so ago. I knew it was getting bad when I felt like my way of speaking was getting taken over by reddit speak and memes. Screw something silly up at work “that face when...”

I worked hard to start reading longer form articles and books again, but my attention span was so crippled! It was a really weird experience to quit reddit and social media. I still get memes from my friends, and I would have found them funny before, but now I’m so out of the loop I find the majority of them to be so half hearted. I guess memes are funnier when you’re reading tons of them and get that quick jolt of amusement.

Good addendum! I didn’t think anything of being tired all the time. Even though it’s silly, the jokes about adult life being tiring and all the “but first, coffee” things really made me feel like being tired was just a normal byproduct of being grown up. Nope! I was just anemic to the point the doctor was recommending blood transfusions to me, so I could get back to normal. Oh my gosh! I don’t basically army crawl from the door to the couch when I get home because I am so tired anymore.

I actually find this article really sad. Super happy that the person was able to get to a healthy weight, but their relationship with food still sounds unhealthy. No snacks. Put down your cutlery between bites. Reward yourself for being “good.” Constant mind games to not feel hungry.

There is so much shame and restriction that I would personally find it very hard to sustain this diet. Food should make you feel good. If you get a little hungry and want a snack, then have a little snack! It doesn’t have to be potato chips and chocolate bars.

The author is berating himself for trying too many things at a Thai buffet. I just want to tell the author that he doesn’t have to be ashamed. It’s okay to try new things and have fun with food. Your catalyst for a life change may have been shame, but you don’t have to keep tearing yourself down constantly. Do things because you wanna feel healthy, live a long life.

Me too! Why do I have to use a third party app to snap my windows? It’s so cumbersome pressing the green button, clicking which side you want the app on, clicking which app you want on the other side. When you exit, one app goes full screen. It’s maddening.

Maybe it’s half true. I wanted to be in college, and everyone I met was happy to be there. However, there is some anger at the feeling that you HAVE to be there. There is a lot of cultural pressure to get a higher education. I also remember feeling like I had to decide the rest of my life by choosing a degree, and that really stressed me out. However, I still really wanted to go to college.

Yes, we tend to pay a lot to go to college, and yes, a lot of us feel like we must do it. A lot of choices factor into how much you pay - community college can reduce this, going to a lesser known school, etc. However, it’s an investment in yourself. For some of us, that investment works out really well. Others may struggle to get that awesome job after college.

I can’t either! I’m surprised at the comments saying they totally would. I guess I remember the anthrax scare when I was little, so unsolicited packages have always freaked me out a bit.

Mental math is so difficult for me that it’s embarrassing! The numbers just don’t stay in my head long enough. I used to feel anxiety if math came up in conversation because I simply can’t calculate in my head like others do, and it makes me feel like a fool.

In school, I’d think I’d be doing great on my math problems. When I’d get my work back, I did terrible because I’d accidentally change the numbers in the middle of the problem. I also always had a feeling that I missed some foundational information because nothing ever clicked for me. I put it down to switching schools a few times, but I think it may have been something more than that now. I was actually scared to even try programming because I was always told you need to be good at math, so I thought I would fail terribly.

Yes! Or a terse, “this has already been done,” with a link to the project. Some poor soul just said they spent the last 2 years of their life learning to make their project, and you’re gonna hit them with the “been done” punch?

We recently got a very green new hire at work. I told him to learn some vim because it would be helpful for him. He went rogue and used nano instead.

Doing a project that’s already been done before is such a learning experience. The person in the article learned a whole new framework to try and optimize their project. What a great bonus skill to have in your back pocket.

I have been trying to develop my own soft skills. I used to think things like small talk were a waste of time. I didn’t realize they were a way to open the lines of communication which you can then build up to something substantial. I don’t feel soft skills in this industry are frowned upon so much as people (like myself) are just a little ignorant about them. I’ve noticed devs can give some really blunt feedback and genuinely think they’re being helpful, and they are! But a person receiving the feedback who already isn’t confident can feel like they’re being criticized. The two people need to almost meet half way. Be confident enough to take the feedback, and be a little more careful with your words when you give it.

I also dress up for interviews even if the place is casual, and I even usually dress nicely for the first day of work. You’re normally introduced to 100 people on your first day, and I like to make a good impression. I’ve never had a problem with negative feedback from this. I think you can tell someone’s cultural fit better by a conversation than their clothing.

I read Lolita because I was really curious about the unreliable narrator aspect. The writing was incredible. I tried to get my friends to read it, but the subject matter really put them off.

I like Todoist. A friend recently leant me a book called “Getting Things Done,” and what I got most out of it was using my todo lists better. I have several todo lists for things like house, study, and “I’ll get to this one day, but it’s not urgent.” I use Todoist to review what I want to do, then I press a little button to mark them for today, then I just work off today’s list. It lets me make long todo lists so it’s off my mind, but then being able to move things to today easily makes me not get overwhelmed when I look at what I have to do.