i started self-hosting a bunch of stuff last month: Pleroma (like Mastodon/Twitter), Matrix (chat), Gitea (like Github) and Jellyfin (like Plex, a media server). AFTER i set up the hardware/OS, these each took about 1-2 hours to setup, and it gets faster each time as i get more accustomed to the common parts (nginx, systemd, Lets Encrypt, and whatever containerization you use).
today i accidentally nuked everything by not flushing the disk before rebooting and then naively letting fsck try to ‘fix’ it (which just makes things worse since it unlinks every inode it thinks is wrong instead of helping you recover data). now i’m manually dumping blocks and re-linking them in, supplementing whatever’s not recoverable with a 3-day old backup. that’s probably gonna take an entire day to fix up.
after this i have to figure out a better backup solution, because it costs me $5 of API requests every time i rclone the system to Backblaze, making frequent backups too expensive.
after that, i have to figure out the email part of things. AFAICT it’s pretty much impossible to 100% self-host email because of blacklisting. you have to at least proxy it through a VPS, or something.
and in between that i may spin up a DNS server to overcome the part where it takes 60min for any new service to be accessible because of the negative caching common in DNS.
no, this stuff is just way too involved for anyone who hasn’t already spent a decade in the CLI. i’m only doing this because i’m a nerd with time on his hands between jobs. self-hosting isn’t gonna catch on this decade. but maybe we can federate, so that you just need to have one friend who cares about this stuff manage the infra and provide it to their peers as a social good.
also, i don’t think privacy is the right angle for promoting self-hosting. a good deal of the things that people self-host have a public-facing component (websites; public chatrooms; etc). if privacy is what you seek, then you should strive to live life offline. the larger differentiator for self-housing is control.