> It is our belief that creepiness is anxiety aroused by the ambiguity of whether there is something to fear or not
You mentioned:
> you're too focused on something you want, my ass and cleavage for instance
You can be focused on ass and cleavage, but not be creepy: eg, if you're honest and open that that's what you're looking for, and not trying to hide or be something you're not.
Creepiness occurs where that ambiguity exists: there's a discrepancy between someones evident intent and actions.
- If someone's trying to get you away from your friends, with a 'cool thing you need to see', but they clearly want to make out, it's creepy.
- If they say 'I think we should go somewhere and make out' it's less so.
A lot of creepiness comes from shy men who are afraid of rejection, other comes from shy men that understand, eg, that isolation makes people more likely to make out, but try and use subterfuge to make that happen.