* How to talk like you have something to say
* How to leave space for others to talk
* Helping the conversation move along
* Saying stuff that is interesting but not necessarily true without being deceptive
* Be funny now and then (YMMV)
https://www.amazon.com/Improv-Your-Conversations-Banter-Tech...
I should probably try more with improv, it seems fun (albeti scary), but a good way to basically 'hit the gym' for some social skills. If I can cross some of those barriers, maybe the others won't be too terribly hard!
For me, what helped a lot was backpacking a social trail like the Appalachian Trail. Every stranger basically talks, you get to know people REAAAALLLL fast, and people that don't talk oftentimes actively avoid it and are seen as a bit weird. People on the trail I was on were seemingly totally fine with me being autistic and trans, it's a pretty accepting place. <3 :'))))