Can you explain why? I feel like weed makes me kinder to people (as well as letting go of small petty things, as the article suggested), which unironically seems like a major relationship booster, which is helpful in both family/career building.
Drinking went from something super casual to - think about it, check in with the wife to confirm that she can/doesn't mind doing any potential driving, then have a drink or two.
It's like scheduling a good time. Totally kill the vibe.
It is possible to be this way without weed too. It takes practice but is very doable.
Not in my experience. Drugs of any kind usually cause your partner to feel too distant from the "real you". Drug use may also indicate a lack of confidence and inability to handle mundane situations.
Being an unreliable partner has to be one of the top relationship killers regardless of drug use.
> kinder to people as well as letting go of small petty things
I may be misunderstanding what you're saying here, but relationships should be way deeper than just being kind to each other. Disagreements are only as bad as the way they're handled. They need to be worked out early or the disappointment and irritation will only get worse. Burying your head in the sand doesn't sound like a good strategy.
> I may be misunderstanding what you're saying here, but relationships should be way deeper than just being kind to each other.
Yes, but being kind is the cornerstone of a good relationship. In my observed experience, most relationships don't even have that, so it's a good ideal to strive towards (as a first step)
> Disagreements are only as bad as the way they're handled.
No. If there are fundamental disagreements on relationship goals, then your relationship is a ticking time bomb. You can't "handle" your way out of that.