>And then you accuse him of viewing all women with suspicion. Do you not see the hypocrisy?
I don't view all men with suspicion so no. I view men who act like he described with suspicion though.
>He's not complaining about "women" being "devious."
"Is she going to report me for code of conduct violations when things don't go her way?"
That's actually exactly what he was doing.
>He's complaining about the poisonous and paranoid culture that is created when certain groups have carte blanche to hang the scarlet letter of "Harassment" on you for God-only-knows what reason.
No group has that ability though. What is happening is he's built up in his mind this boogyman and is letting his fears of it control his actions in such a way that he is actually making himself act in a negative way.
>A person is a person. Isn't that the goal of "equality"?
Yes, and that is exactly what I said above. He was describing a situation where him and his group were specifically not treating people equally and being upset because his actions in differentiating a person from his group was off putting.
>At the same time though, your comfort zone does not automatically obligate everyone around you to change.
The thing is though the community has decided on a set of rules for how people should act to be a part of it. If you can't live by those conventions then fine but you can't complain about being excluded from the community when you don't.
If you find being asked to treat people civilly and equally to be a threat to you then odds are you really need to reevaluate who you are as a person.
No one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, everyone is an asshole at different times or acts inappropriately. Being able to recognize that you are in the wrong at those times instead of blaming society is a part of belonging to it though.