burnoutgal

"getting hit for a bus" is a hyperbolic example meant to stand in for a catastrophic event. It really means you (or a family member like a parent, partner or child) has a major health event, for instance. Some things are random, some things tend to become more likely with age. Even just chronic pain or other health issues might make retirement less fun than travelling in your 20s (speaking as someone with chronic pain from surgical implants).

Besides health there's a lot of reasons why being certain about doing something now might be preferable to putting it off for 10+ years.

But you need a house with a backyard, two teslas, a wine cellar and a college fund or you aren't really living /s

In the boom time there's an unending appetite for mediocre engineers to inflate headcount, making managers look good (more reports) and companies look good (to investors). In the bust time, I don't think even the smartest people will be safe, and the top of the ladder may well be pruned more aggressively because they're expensive. Having positive reviews may protect you, but being high in the org won't.

Do you worry about being hit by a bus before you have FU money? Personally I'd rather work half time for twice as many years than try to race to retire.

A lot of responses seem to be focused on high cost-of-living areas, which is kind of a chicken-and-egg problem. If you want to be a moderately checked out person, living in a smaller city and stretching your giant bay area salary is the way to go. If you want to be aggressively careerist, you have to be face-to-face in the bay networking.

More input and more interesting problems both feel like more responsibility for the same comp, imo, which might be appealing for some people but is anathema to me. The people higher up got there by being more argumentative, or backstabbing, or ingratiating themselves, and instead of going along with them now you get to fight them. No thanks.

Seriously, why do people care about being promoted beyond senior/staff? Even at a smaller company you're making 200k/year, you probably have a good handle on your job, why not just coast? There's a big discontinuity in comp if you can make it to the director level, but being a manager or senior staff seems like a ton of work for no benefit.

I work like 20 hours a week at my job, I almost quit because it's extremely boring and dysfunctional, but then I realized I can just disengage and enjoy my extra free time instead of pushing to exceed expectations. And I still get paid the same.

I worked at Shopify - Pay is all about getting the Shopify brand into consumer minds. They had a huge problem where retailers used their platform but there was very little stickiness, the customer relationship was owned by the retailer. With Pay Shopify used it's existing install base to collect customer info and intermediate their relationship with merchants, making it harder to move a shop off Shopify.

Of course they need to tell a story about increased revenue to the retailers, because otherwise why would they voluntarily give Shopify control over their relationship with their customers?

“Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition …There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.”

The overton window in america is so far to the right that the prospect of charging rich people for breaking the law is unheard of.

A remarkable thing about these stories is that many artists end up enjoying lavish lifestyles while they're popular, but having no money (and going on the dole) when their success wanes. The record industry absolutely encourages this boom and bust lifestyle by advancing money and then withholding royalties until an artist is "recouped", which almost never happens thanks to some fun accounting tricks. The result is young people who come from modest means, are showered with cash, and recieved no financial planning advice. They're also a magnet for people trying to get a cut of the money - people who will encourage them to pursue a lifestyle of excess.

Dave Grohl is the Paul McCartney of the 90s - survived the breakup of a band that had massive mainstream success, reinvented himself as a solo artist, now gets to be a lifetime musician with more money than god. I like Nirvana and I like early Foo Fighters, but modern Dave Grohl has been churning out hard-rock oatmeal with copy-paste lyrics since Colour and the Shape.

Yeah, having seen the monstrosities Tableau generates, that example seemed quaint.

There's lots of python libraries for graph visualization, it's probably force-directed layout or something else similar.

The name is indeed a reference to data warehouse design, where you normally have heavily normalized data in a snowflake schema. The Kimball book is the canonical one on data warehouse design.

Glad to see this perspective. I find the industry in general is full of very confident people who will try to bowl you over with their cursory understanding of topics.

Personally I hate scratch images because once you lose busybox, you lose the ability to exec into containers. It's a great escape hatch for troubleshooting.

Women should have the option to control their own bodies - that means allowing birth control and abortion.

It's also patriarchy at work that men would never tolerate even 1/10th of the risks women face in preventing pregnancy. Look at the responses to getting a small injection - "nobody would ever do that"! Hormonal birth control is great for some women, but terrible for others. It can also cause suicidality, but the side effects are routinely downplayed because women are expected to "deal with it". There's more research into how to keep men's hair from falling out and keep their dicks hard than there is into the most comfortable way to insert IUDs, or the side effects of hormonal birth control.

Women get IUDs inserted with nothing more than OTC painkillers, generally. Especially in people who have never given birth it can be cripplingly painful and cause severe cramps for weeks.

Have you ever read about what it's like to get an IUD inserted? I would recommend checking that out and then asking whether a small injection to the genitals is really the worst possibility.

When I was at Shopify, it was Python unit tests for ETL code. There was a framework of reusable components that simplified things, but it was all homegrown. They were trying to move to dbt

The IDF have also murdered a lot of innocent palestinians, but if you do it dressed like a soldier somehow it's not "terrorism"

well, and the israeli definition of "terror activities" for palestinians could be as simple as "showed up at a protest"

I have been the token woman interviewing a woman and also joined teams where the only other woman interviewed me. It always struck me more as "look, we have one and she's not mouthing 'get out' so we're a good employer".

Usually once I join the one other woman leaves and the cycle repeats.

Graviton2 is generally available and depending on your codebase and dependencies can be a drop-in replacement. I was amazed at the breadth of ARM docker images that exist for common use cases.

Yup, classic fascist rhetoric. It's not surprising they point to a woman being independent and expressing her sexuality as the example of "degenerate culture". The "other" (people of colour, women, queers) are producing art that represents our own experiences, which is a threat to their desired white hetero-patriarchal order.

Never mind that Mozart wrote a ton of filthy shit. People have been obsessed with sex forever

They're spending money to build housing, which will be used to house people without homes. The headline makes it sound like they're paying a million dollars in rent, but in fact this is real estate development.

In practice people will accuse non-pornographic LGBT educational resources of being pornography and breaking the law. Pornography is subjective, and straight people have historically tried to say that any information about gay sex or being trans is pornographic. This just hurts queer youth by depriving them of resources and forums to talk about their experiences

Your link doesn't say "give your employer all your medical records", it says "if you take medical leave you need a certificate from a doctor". There's no obligation to prove you have no medical problems at all, if the employer has a compelling interest (ex. if OP is an airline pilot and they can't have a seizure disorder) they should provide a specific list of disqualifying conditions.

There's no job where ADHD is going to be disqualifying for health and safety reasons.

There's no "but", it's invasive and illegal. The boss is using OP's ADHD as an excuse to demand all this private information, to "prove" they need accomodation.

Car companies do a lot of revenue, but margins are slim. When you actually have to build something out of metal and glass you have to be fixated on cost cutting.

It is not. As many people have pointed out, this seems to be a ubiquitous pattern in high growth companies that I assumed was unique to my last big startup

I have a therapist, but sometimes it can be difficult to talk through these things with someone who doesn't know the field or the ground truth.

My big stressor is that I have hit the jackpot, and where do I go from here? So many people I know have settled into a comfortable groove, but work is by far the biggest stressor in my life, it's ruining my health, and I don't really have a path out. Continually churning applying for new jobs or dropping out of tech altogether don't seem very appealing.

I've commented elsewhere, but this is a >1000 person company where deployments are owned by a dedicated team. There's a lot of technical debt involved, but my team is pretty far removed from it, and there is also necessary complexity. Dropping in and proposing a new process isn't really feasible.