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I've been to weddings that had an "open" ceremony and a closed reception. This has generally been at a church, where the wedding itself is announced to the whole church community, but then the reception is a more limited number of family and friends.

More commonly though, I've been to weddings where they had a small private ceremony (just the couple, officiant, and a handful of family), and then a large reception for everyone in the evening.

In the US this is generally true as well. It’s not that there will be security at the door checking invitations, but it’s be very rude to show up to a wedding ceremony you weren’t invited to.

The thing I've seen at a few weddings recently is that right after the processional, they have a period of like 30 seconds where they allow everyone to take a picture of the couple, then phones away for the rest of the ceremony. I'm sure it's not 100% effective, but it does seem to scratch the itch for most people. I think also by calling such explicit attention to the rule at the beginning of the ceremony, it makes it seem ever more rude to violate it later.

I’m currently wedding planning and regularly visit a wedding planning forum. I was left flabbergasted the other day when someone posted if it would be ok to ask guests to not post pictures of the couple on social media. They’re ok with guests posting pictures of themselves or of the venue and decor, they just don’t really want pictures of the bride and groom.

The response ranged from “you can ask but you can’t prevent people from posting” to “it’d be rude and inconsiderate to even ask”. One person even argued that it would be rude and other people would judge them if they went to a wedding and didn’t have a picture of the bride and groom.

I don’t think I ever felt the generational divide as acutely as in reading those responses, and I’m not even that old, I had social media when I was in high school.

Not having touched Silksong yet, I'd recommend playing the Hollow Knight first. It holds up really well and is absolutely worth a play through. I think sometimes a sequel releases and it makes the original feel hard to go back to, if it's added new features or quality of life things. If I were in your position, I think having the "uncontaminated" experience of Hollow Knight is worth it.

That is, unless you really want to feel like you're part of the conversation these first few weeks after Silksong comes out.

> I also think even without the medication the diagnosis is worth it.

Yeah, I think our society views so many symptoms of ADHD as the worst type of personal failings, so I think there's a level of trauma associated with growing up undiagnosed and being consistently blamed and shamed for things that were out of your control. Even without medication, getting diagnosed was, for me, the first step towards healing and starting to unpack all that shame.

I think especially as adults (esp. people that managed to get to adulthood without being diagnosed), a lot of people think they don't have certain symptoms, when really they just have developed elaborate systems for managing those symptoms.

I never related to "time blindness" because I was always consistently early for things, but really I was just deeply anxious about being on time for things. I would set like 10 alarms set, I wouldn't be able to do anything for an hour or two beforehand because I was worried about being late, and I'd usually show up way too early because I couldn't actually estimate when I needed to start getting ready to be on time. That doesn't exactly sound like the behavior of someone with a functional inner clock.

A few years ago, at least in my field, there was definitely a trend of people at least doing twitter threads explaining the key findings of their papers. It's obviously less in-depth than a blog post would be, but it was still usually a far more accessible version of the key ideas. Unfortunately, this community has basically dissolved in the last few years due to the changes in twitter and to my knowledge hasn't really converged on a new home.

If you like codenames, you might also enjoy decrypto [1], it scratches a very similar part of my brain. There's a set of secret words, and the codemaster needs to give clues that are specific enough that if you know the secret words, you can make the connection, but vague enough that you can't guess the secret words.

[1] https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/225694/decrypto

Null hypotheses are often idealized distributions that are mathematically convenient and are often over-simplifications of the distributions we'd expect if there were truly no effect (because the expected distributions are either intractable to work with, or irregular and unknown).

So for example, suppose you want to detect if there's unusual patterns in website traffic -- a bot attack or unexpected popularity spike. You look at page views per hour over several days, with the null hypothesis that page views are normally distributed, with constant mean and variance over time.

You run a test, and unsurprisingly, you get a really low p-value, because web traffic has natural fluctuations, it's heavier during the day, it might be heavier on weekends, etc.

The test isn't wrong -- it's telling you that this data is definitely not normally distributed with constant mean and variance. But it's also not meaningful because it's not actually answering the question you're asking.

If you haven't already, you should look into some stretches for tension headaches. For me at least, they don't make the headache go away completely (because often dehydration is a factor as well), but they sure take the edge off.

I feel like if the university has an issue with it, this could all be fixed by just adding course waitlists. Which is how it was handled at both my undergrad and grad university

A Dark Room (https://adarkroom.doublespeakgames.com/) is fantastic as well. It's not only a clicker/idle game, but it incorporates the mechanics in an interesting way.

On the whole, I've had to adopt a policy of not even touching clicker games. I find them incredibly addictive, and most of the time I'm not even enjoying the experience or getting anything out of it, I just feel hooked. I'd say Universal Paperclips and A Dark Room were exceptions to that, in that they actually had some depth, strategy, discovery, or story. But even those two I've had to stop myself from replaycing.

From the article: "Judge Lopez said that the bankruptcy auction failed to maximize the amount of money that the sale of Infowars should provide to Mr. Jones’s creditors, including the Sandy Hook families, in part because the bids were submitted in secret. “It seemed doomed almost from the moment they decided to go to a sealed bid,” Judge Lopez said. “Nobody knows what anybody else is bidding,” he added."

I've never thought about it before but mine is definitely counter clock-wise as well, though NYE can be either at 12 o'clock or 6 o'clock. Brains are weird things.

I appreciate the parent commenter complaining about how they were looking for something just to get ads instead, and getting a response telling them to buy something.

That said, I'll also second the back mechanic book for anyone with back pain.

I always read it as meaning something like "unfazed" before seeing someone get corrected on it.

I agree that R/ggplot is often more straightforward, but the main reason I (and most colleagues I've worked with) tend to use matplotlib is just a preference for python over R in general (to each their own though, that's not a debate I'm looking to start). If I'm doing data analysis in python already, it's a pain to export out just to plot in R. That said, it's definitely a steep learning curve, especially because it's something people usually learn on the fly instead of having any kind of formal instruction. I do think seaborn has really helped boost ease of entry wrt plotting in python at least.

I really like the Refold 1k decks. They're paid but have good audio (both the word and example sentences), the definitions and examples are well edited, and unlike most "top 1000 word" type decks, are curated to remove common cognates so you're not wasting your time on things you already know. Only available in 6 languages at this time though.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

In my first year of college, I lost a close friend in a similar way. Perfectly healthy 18-year-old girl. Went to sleep in her dorm one night and never woke up. It was my first real experience with death, at least at an age that I could truly understand what was happening, and I think not having a real cause made it so much more difficult to process.

They did find a cousin afterwards who had an undiagnosed heart defect, but they said that it was likely unrelated. Still, a small bit of light I suppose from an otherwise tragic event, that otherwise it might not have been found and he might not have known.

About time. Biorxiv and medrxiv have been doing this for probably half a decade at this point?

Oh, I do completely agree and didn't mean to imply otherwise. I have had experiences where reviewers have given me great ideas for new experiments or ways to present things. But the most useful ones usually are the "wtf?" type comments, or comments that suggest the reviewers completely misunderstood or misread the text. While those are initially infuriating, the reviewers are usually among the people in the field that are most familiar with the topic of the paper--if they don't understand it or misread it, 95% of the time it's because it could be written more clearly.

I agree. My own most influential paper received strong rejects the first time we submitted it, and rightfully so, I think. In retrospect, we didn't do a good job motivating it, the contributions weren't clearly presented, and the way we described was super confusing. I'm genuinely grateful for it because the paper that we eventually published is so much better (although the core of the idea barely changed), and it's good because of the harsh reviews we received the first time around. The reviews themselves weren't even particularly "insightful", mostly along the lines of "this is confusing, I don't understand what you're doing or why you're doing it", but sometimes you just really need that outside perspective.

I've also reviewed and rejected my share of papers where I could tell there is a seed of a great idea, but the paper as written just isn't good. It always brings me joy to see those papers eventually published because they're usually so much better.

Delta. I was having a nightmare of a travel day (not caused by the airline) and had to call to rebook my flights. The customer service rep was one of the sweetest people I've ever talked to. She rebooked my flight with no issue but she also just chatted with me about my bad day, about what I was looking forward to on my vacation, etc. I'm not normally one to talk to strangers, but this was genuinely the one bright part of that whole day.

I'll second Patagonia. I have a zip-up sweater of theirs that was around a decade old that still looked brand new despite wearing it at least once a week and I got the zipper stuck in something and it broke. They replaced the zipper no cost, no problems, free shipping.

I think it may also be missing a step 0, which is "Identify that there exists a problem". I find that this is often an entirely distinct step from Step 1, which is it's own hill to climb.

I'm in CS research (with most of my work being applied to biological problems), so I'm a few steps removed from pure math, but I can completely related to this. It's why I find writing grants so difficult -- because they generally require you to identify and describe the problem and propose some potential solutions. But that's like 90% of the work for the whole thing!

Yeah, sorry about that. I meant the cross body sling, with the roll top. I do know someone as well that has the shoulder bag and likes it, but I can't personally speak to it.

I have a few retractable multi-cables (micro USB, usb-c, lightning) and they bring me joy every time I use them. No hunting for or switching out different cables. No dongles. No long cords cluttering the space. I think everyone I know that has seen mine has gone on to buy their own

I know HN skews largely male so this might not be interesting to many, but an Ethnotek crossbody purse. It's the most well-thought-through bag I've ever used, especially for travel. Everything has a place and is secure (so I don't worry about pickpockets), but is still easily accessible when needed. And it's expandable for a water bottle or jacket but rolls up small when empty.

I've had to institute a blanket "no clicker game" policy for myself because I find them way too addicting. The frustrating thing about most (but not all) clicker games is that for me, they usually don't even feel good (e.g., relaxing, mentally stimulating, satisfying). They just make me feel like I'm an addict that needs my dopamine drip. There are definitely non-clicker games that hit the same spot for me, but almost every clicker game I've tried manages to completely suck me in.

I would put Universal Paperclips and A Dark Room as exceptions though in the sense that they're still fully engrossing, but there's a little bit more depth and discovery than just "click the thing until you have enough clicks to get the next thing".