this is like THE book for DBT. There are others but this is the one you will find in most programs and grad courses, the de facto, “go to” text
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(Actual therapist fwiw)
Thus “don’t feed the trolls” being the most sage wisdom in the history of the internet. However, we struggle to understand this core concept of the human condition and we don’t really cover it in any basic education. So as a result we have a society wherein it’s very easy for people who don’t give a shit about their image to rise in stature by being controversial instead of being correct or good.
As an aside this is something parents struggle with SO much in my work. We identify an attention maintained behavior. I educate on the above in more detail, function of behavior, extinction, etc. and then they almost always need to be corrected because they immediately scold the child, which is providing attention! Data analysis will show this has little impact on rates of behavior but planned ignoral will often have dramatic consequences if they can actually stay consistent with implementation. The problem for someone like Elon is that you will simply never get everyone to ignore him. This procedure generally only works with young children wherein you can get a good degree of stimulus control for that reason. Otherwise it’s the issue with telling a kid in middle school to ignore their bully. They might do it and they might do a perfect job but that bully will almost certainly continue to get reinforcement from other sources making the initial kids efforts essentially meaningless.
I just cook at home now. Occasionally I’ll pick up food. I refuse to support these garbage companies and when I have my (very expensive) food shows up cold almost always anyway.
The apple self service program is apples ideal of right to repair. A shitty program where you can buy board assemblies and larger parts for fairly high prices with no changes to their software approach whatsoever. A battery change through this program is ~$120 up front (if you rent the tools, which you probably should) with a $30 refund when you return your dead battery. A battery change via the apple store is $99. You can only buy parts if you give them the device serial number up front (so fuck independent shops) and you need to call apple at the end to pair the part on their end.
A pointless program with tons of waste still created. A short on your laptop motherboard? Better buy a new motherboard. An issue with the camera on your MacBook? Better buy a new lcd assembly.
They will suddenly become very against right to repair the moment it starts to actually fight for things like schematics and board diagram access, component availability and not just parts assemblies, parts pairing that’s done in a consumer friendly way, etc.
imagine legislation that says apple has to change parts pairing so that if a consumer unlocks their phone the parts have to be able to be sold as well? Or that they can no longer enter a contract with Texas Instruments to buy 100% of their stock of a usb c controller ic for a MacBook Pro so repair shops can’t buy it on digikey or mouser? Etc. they will fight that hard and then just find a way to circumvent it (like making their own usb c controller ic)
Don’t get me wrong rehab is a costly endeavor regardless but rich actors spending millions on rehab is often because they’re doing it in style. They aren’t going to recovery centers of America, eating Sysco hospital food, and sharing a room with a 22 year old heroin addict that steals car stereos whose family is giving them one last chance. That 22 year old will still end up paying a lot but not as much as you’d think for 28 day inpatient residential. It’s often like 20-40k which is for sure a lot of money but when you think of taking care of a human being for a month, monitoring them, feeding them, housing them, providing them counseling (usually multiple types), nursing and admin support, etc. it’s especially crazy when a single mri can take that number in a 40 minute scan.
He was fairly quickly identified as a suspect and then caught. Somehow over the years this story of a shithead scumbag father murdering his child morphed into the idea that a stranger would adulterate candy for the fun of it, which as far as I am aware has never happened. Unless the original poster isn’t lying which would likely be able to be substantiated fairly easily as they clearly knew which house gave out the apples so the perpetrator would be easily identified. Or maybe we’re supposed to believe they found a razor in their children’s candy and just let it go without reporting anything to the police or media, who would obviously pounce on the one time in history this urban legend finally came true aside from a sociopath father trying to pull insurance fraud.
Or perhaps I’m just coping and telling myself that to deny that I have really bad attention and impulsivity issues
I can’t play the Edison disc or the wax cylinder. I can play the rib, I only did it once because it’s extremely delicate at this point and it sounds absolutely horrible anyway. It likely never sounded very good. I have a table with a 12” arm that can play a portion of the 16” record, which does play at 33rpm. I also have a 16rpm record but nothing that spins that slow
I have some newer weird records too. Several flexidiscs. These are interesting because they are flat and originally were used like subscription cards in a magazine. They’ve had a resurgence in popularity recently so they’re very easy to get. Picture discs and die cuts of course. But the weirder stuff has happened with the resurgence: I have a record by the punk band tart that is filled with the dust from pixy stix. Like you can pick it up and shake it around. That’s made by a company called romanus and they make all kinds of weird filled records; they’ve made tons filled with liquid, with LEDs, etc. they made one that is a functioning guitar distortion pedal and recently made one for a band filled with maggots. They’ve done others filled with razor blades, money, scorpions, all kinds of weird shit. Musicians and their art right?
These are like two records sandwiched around a chamber filled with whatever. I’ve also gotten some where they press something into the wax, glitter or whatever. Third man records did a very notable pressing a while back where they pressed pot leaves into a record although I did not get that; I kind of got away from buying new vinyl by that point (it’s an expensive hobby these days, not like back in 2005!). I would strongly recommend avoiding this unless you just want to look at it. The romanus ones are goofy but ultimately can still be listened to. They’re lathe cut records so they sound inferior to a proper pressed record but unless you’re listening on some very fancy setup you probably can’t tell the difference tbh. with a record that has stuff actually pressed into though the needle path is fucked up. Glitter means you get a bunch of extra clicks and pops. And yet they still press these bc I think 80-90% of people buying physical media nowadays don’t actually ever listen to it, they just put it on their shelf and listen on Spotify. But I digress
Thanks for reading my dissertation on weird vinyl. I hope you enjoyed it
There is no fool proof solution to this. Except maybe make your own I guess. It’s a garage door opener. An esp32 controlling a relay wired to your existing garage door remote probably won’t look as nice but I bet it ends up being more secure
Parts pairing isn’t inherently bad but it could be done in a way that is consumer friendly. Are you seriously telling me that apple can release the iCloud lock on the phone when you go to sell it but they can’t release the lock on the parts? It’s that simple. Tether the iCloud lock to the parts themselves. If I have findmy turned on and the parts are harvested they are completely useless, they simply won’t work at all. If I have it turned off they work perfectly.
This is arguably a superior system to the current one where the parts can be harvested from an iCloud locked phone and they kind of work. I can harvest a screen from an iCloud locked iPhone 15 today and it will still work. The faceid won’t work, the true tone won’t work, the front camera won’t work, and the auto brightness won’t work, but night shift will work and the screen itself will work.
And frankly as someone who does repairs as a side job it is a matter of time until the parts pairing is circumvented in some way. It likely won’t be easy and will require a sketchy $2-400 box from china along with very good microsoldering skills to move whatever bga nand ic apple has on the lcd flex to the replacement. But they’ve cracked it for every other iPhone to date including the 14 pro max. A lot of repair shops won’t do that because the hardware is pricey and the skills required are pretty intense.
This is a regulatory failure imo. I am 100% sure if apple had their way once you signed into iCloud the phone would be forever linked to you. The only reason that is not the case is because the first sale doctrine says we (in America at least) have a right to resell the things we buy. But that doesn’t explicitly say anything about the individual components of the things we buy and that hasn’t been legally tested afaik so here we are. Or maybe I’m wrong here, I’m not a lawyer at all
And that doesn’t touch upon their supply chain hostility. I do repair as a side business so I don’t really mess with phones much because I don’t want to do lcd swaps all day. I have a day job and really just want stuff I can do 1-3 nights a week and maybe on the weekend and more of the diagnosis and microsoldering work that I find challenging and enjoyable. As a result I do laptops and consoles a lot more. MacBooks are frustrating because there are several situations in which I simply cannot get chips.
Apple buys them all? Or forces TI or whoever to not sell them to digikey/mouser/etc. LCD panels are the same. This is more complicated and gets into the complexity of oem vs 3rd party which may not be economically feasible anymore with modern electronics fabrication. So then should there be regulatory requirements that apple or Samsung or whoever can’t control 100% of a certain chip, lcd panel, whatever so that I as an independent entity can still provide cheap component level repairs of your MacBook?
Sigh. The sad part is this industry will likely be obsolete in 5-10 years (the idea of component level repairs kind of already is) but it doesn’t have to be. This isn’t an “automation made my job obsolete” situation. This is a “powerful companies don’t like a lack of control” situation. As a result, we lose an industry that could potentially create a lot of local small business and jobs. It’s okay, apple and Samsung need that money more anyway I guess
Then the summer months would come and the circles would be a nightmare, filled with dipshits from the surrounding states that had no idea of how they worked despite the fact that the majority of them were single lane! You would really dread the double lane ones though as they would be filled with people who would have no idea how to proceed. You would often see people go around several times before they’d finally exit when there was a lull in traffic
My dad is 78. He knows how to use his tv and cable box. It gets a firmware update that adds some feature that is pointless to him (lets say HDR, he doesn’t give a shit) but refreshes the UI.
I feel like 10-20 years ago I could just download the old firmware onto a usb and install it over the new one for stuff like this. That concept is just unheard of now. I sort of get why from a security perspective but if that has to be the case then keep your shitty UI/UX consistent at least. Or find a secure way to allow downgrades. That’s not my expertise at all but I’m sure it can be done
This is all I use now
Repair shops that have the ability to find the short in your iPhone logic board, rebuild traces and replace a destroyed lightning connector, reball a chip, etc will still have to operate without apples/samsungs/etc explicit consent as always. But if you want a chance of saving your data you’ll need one of these shops. But also maybe back up your data before your phone/laptop/pc/console gets wrecked tbf
If this catches on I’m sure they’ll eventually have them make sound too, noise pollution is no big deal right? Why not eventually make you watch a 5 second ad to open the freezer to force engagement? Itll be like YouTube except at the end you get eggs and Gatorade. How fun! Maybe you can get a coupon for 5 cents off if you watch 10 ads on the door. Then it’s like they’re doing you a favor!
Those splits can sound high but they make sense for smaller groups in areas with high commercial rent. That said I’ve since shifted to telehealth and gone fully private with my own llc. This has significantly raised my income (almost doubled). But this creates major headaches because I no longer have that buffer. It can be heartbreaking at times to work with a client who is truly trying hard, struggling because of financial stress, and then having to tell them their card was declined. Or even worse, the insurance finally processed the last three sessions, it turns out their policy had lapsed, and they now owe you $360 plus another $120 for today. Do you shoulder the burden and eat those costs to help that person struggle a bit less? Tough call.
Other things in terms of idealism: the hourly rate is pretty decent. Around here a masters level clinician will get ~$85/38-52 minute session and ~$110/53+ min session. And you will likely have no shortage of clients; I’m always overbooked and I have a wait list through the end of December right now (which is the cap, I could easily just let it grow). BUT you are working with people with mental health issues. You will have people that no show. You will have people that cancel. Sometimes it’s the standard stuff like right now strep and RSV are going around or in a few weeks the holidays will happen. You will have people that enthusiastically begin services, tell you their life story, create a treatment plan, then disappear. Your earnings will become contingent on how well you can keep your utilization up. There will be weeks where you work a lot but you spend a lot of time doing things you don’t bill for; answering emails, doing new patient consults, etc. if you work with kids/teens this becomes much worse because you inevitably get parents that want to constantly check in. Your life becomes a balancing act of setting boundaries around this stuff. Do you just refuse to do it? Do you become the therapist that charges for every contact? Do you just give in and become the therapist that works 70 hours a week and gets paid for 30?
Practice ideals too: a lot of the day to day is way more frustrating than you can conceptualize. The ideal is someone comes in and says “I want to work on x” and then you do conceptualize the case and do that. But a shocking amount of people come in and say “I don’t know why I’m here”. Therapy can be so muddy and ill defined. In addition a lot of mental health issues are really sociological and economic issues masquerading as mental health issues and we’re often just not supposed to mention that which is frustrating. Like an employee who has a disability but the employer is being an asshole about accommodations will sometimes come to therapy to vent about the anxiety and frustration it causes. There’s nothing wrong with this person; they just work for an asshole. Or someone who is chronically anxious because they are poor. They might have actually mh issues but it’s really hard to tell with that financial stress constantly confounding everything. Etc.
You’ll certainly get the more annoying kind of harder too. People who push boundaries and email or text you 200 times a week. People who get really upset with you for challenging them a bit and freak the fuck out. People who make everything into a joke and never take anything seriously. People who talk over you and refuse to hear anything you say. People who refuse to honor your time limits and push past the end of session even though they know others are waiting. People who say nothing the whole time they are with you. People who text you to schedule an appointment, don’t respond when you reply asking what would work for them, and getting pissy that you didn’t track them down like you’re their parent.
Generally though in terms of “harder” clients you should be fine on the outpatient level as long as you have good boundaries. Outpatient is somewhat limited in level of severity that can be treated so if you’re encountering someone that’s actively suicidal/homicidal, someone whose health is compromised to the point of danger (eg severe eating disorder), someone whose lost touch with reality completely or is significantly delusional, etc you should be referring out to higher level of care. In outpatient your “harder” will almost always be the above
One last big thing from a practice point is the vicarious trauma thing. If you do trauma work it can be rough to hear the awful shit people have gone through. Although while this may sound callous it’s not always as rough as you would think. I’ve heard absolutely horrible stories of sexual assault, child abuse, etc, and they don’t really stick with me the way I worried they would. What sticks with me more is the day to day pessimism. Talking to people who are in depressive episodes all day for years can really fuck with you. Keep yourself in check, do your own therapy, self care, whatever it takes
Keep in mind the beginning of the career kind of sucks. The system is built to keep community mental health agencies afloat, at least on this side of the country. Don’t be surprised if you have to spend the first ~2 years post grad working for peanuts in an agency accruing hours for licensure. Your wages will go up significantly once this occurs, especially if you go telehealth only fully independent. And especially so if you work a lot. A great deal of therapists only work 10-20 client hours per week. I do more like 30-35, 6-7 per day. It’s not a particularly long day. 2 people, break, 2 people, break, 1-2 people, done. 8 hours with 2 hours of breaks. This is where I break from my colleagues a bit as a lot of my peers think this schedule is too much. I think they’re being a bit dramatic tbh. I also think this is why they complain about barely making 60-70k a year and I’m making well over six figures even with a pretty generous sliding scale. I don’t mean to brag, genuinely, but more to illustrate that you can make a solid living wage in this career if you work smart and put in the hours. It’s not an easy job by any means but at the same time what job lets you put in 20-30 hours a week and make six figures? That’s absurd. However, you can realistically put in an actual 40 and make a solid income with a potential for very good work life balance.
As for question 2 I think it’s mostly that I’m a bit bored. I’ve been doing clinical practice for over a decade now and it’s work that I enjoy but I find myself doing more stuff on the side. My projects on the side get more and more ambitious and I figure it would be nice to develop those skillsets more with actual connections. I’ve kept programming and doing a lot of microcontroller stuff since high school (which was 20 years ago, ugh) so I’ve gotten pretty decent but at the same time I’m sloppy in a lot of ways because I’ve never had a proper instructor or mentor. I think connecting with a proper work environment or maybe going back to school might help take me to a more serious level. I’d really like to be good enough to combine my programming skill with my research interests in behavioral psych and operant conditioning models. Although I’m sure there’s some 22 year old in the machine learning gold rush beating me to it lol
Sorry for the novel, I’m pretty chatty. hope this helps!
I do a ton of work with exposure and response prevention for ocd. Also work with autism, more generalized anxiety issues, mood disorders, lgbt issues. Have history with pediatric patients, dissociative and homeless populations. Let me know if you have questions. I’m east coast, northeast specifically, but I’ve been doing this work for well over a decade now and would be happy to help guide if I can
All that’s a headache so I just keep my old Mac running old software. It’s annoying to not have the latest features, an ancient version of logic that runs like shit, no support for new plugins, etc, but it still works.
Maybe someday I’ll upgrade but it would be pretty costly to do so and this works despite the headaches. Really wish manufacturers were required to at least release documentation of hardware like this when they dropped support; it was quite expensive back in 2005 or whenever I purchased it and now it’s basically useless outside of this niche scenario. Frustrating and one of the many projects I want to someday get to although I’m probably too stupid to reverse engineer a FireWire bus device and write a driver ha
The other thing you can do with these is reduce the fat content a bit as they will make it taste creamier with less fat thus giving you a similar tasting product for less calories. However, this could also explain why your home made product is superior as side by side full fat will generally still taste better. I still think most major producers cheap out on their cream supply though and use low quality cream that tastes mediocre regardless of fat content though.
N2o doesn’t react with water and the bubbles are more stable so it is a far superior choice for whipped cream. Those bubbles dissolve in the fat of the cream under pressure then upon release aerate the cream resulting in a lighter, fluffier product. That’s why propane wouldn’t work (plus imo propane also imparts an off flavor and I don’t want to eat it despite it being generally recognized as safe). N2o also inhibits bacterial growth, both through replacing oxygen in the canister (which all 3 would do) but also because it’s bacteriostatic. Probably other stuff too
This law is dumb. Make your own whipped cream! A siphon is like $50 now. It makes whipped cream super fast without needing to whisk a bunch and you can also use it to make pickles really fast. You can also use it to carbonate fruit slices and make cocktails if you get c02 chargers
They were impressively accurate though. I did psychotherapy and because of those dogs I had to have 2 couches removed from my office. Yet they were implemented fast enough that I never personally had an issue at home. Although I was deeply paranoid of it for months after and was happy to leave that setting
Knowing if a record will sound good is tough these days. You can read discogs reviews but those are a crapshoot because 90% of them are people who are listening on $50 turntables with built in 2” speakers. They either complain about everything being shit while ignorant of their garbage equipment or paradoxically just think everything is 5 stars because “vinyl just sounds better”
That said the steve Hoffman forums music forums (stevehoffman.tv), gearspace.com, vinylengine.com, certain subreddits (forget which, don’t really go on Reddit anymore but r/vinyl is probably a good start) are at least places with more nuanced discussion where you can generally see the rationale for why someone thinks a pressing is good instead of just “omg it sounds so good 5 stars”. You often get great info on their signal chain as well. But they aren’t nearly as comprehensive so don’t expect to find everything
It’s crazy to me that it’s still going strong. I used to collect vinyl. I still collect used stuff sometimes but prices are nuts now even for used unless it’s in awful shape or something ancient/terrible/no one ever gave a shit about. I refuse to buy new. Back in like 2005 it was a good way to get a physical copy with decent audio quality (and often but not always a better mix versus cd/digital, especially in that era) for like $15-20. Now a single lp is $40 new and the pressing quality is often mediocre. I think nowadays most people just want something to hold onto or a jacket to hang on their wall or whatever, the idea of physical media is ancillary. Maybe they should bring back laserdiscs of movies, I bet they would sell
I am sure it will be so frustrating and I will love the shit out of it. I wish this was still a viable career option. I do electronics repair work as a side business because I really enjoy it. the vast majority of what I end up doing is fixing broken consoles and the occasional piece of industrial equipment from a local business that doesn’t want to spend $$$ on an entire new pcb or whatever. That’s fun in its own right but there’s something about a big mechanical thing with solenoids and whatnot that’s just so much cooler. I occasionally will get a 3d printer or cnc and that’s somewhat close I guess. One time I did buy a vintage cash register from 1923 and redid that. It was a total pain but so much fun and actually turned out to be worth quite a bit once cleaned up and working well. Not nearly enough to justify the amount of time it took of course
Sometimes I see YouTube videos of people that restore stuff like this for work and I have to wonder how they sustain that in this day and age. Do they live near pinball fanatics? Are they just “the person” for pinball restoration? I’ll keep working my day job and continue to occasionally do it for fun I suppose