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throwaway201912

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throwaway201912··on Dating While Dying
I have just started dating a woman who is 22, she has advanced ovarian cancer and a life expectancy that is 12 months and is scheduled for surgery and chemo in January (but this may be sooner given the pain).

This is just a fact between us, and it's something we'll have to deal with. I fell for her, she fell for me, we work well on so many levels.

I know she is likely to die (a 12 month life expectancy isn't a foregone conclusion) but we don't discuss this or make it a focus. Our focus is on living life with passion, a clock that counts 70 years or 1 year doesn't change our approach to life.

I don't really know what to say, I just wanted to put an acknowledgement from myself to the universe down somewhere that yes I know what I'm getting myself into, and yet I love her and it's worth it.

Live life qualitatively not quantitatively.