> meaningful things were raising kids and gardening instead of yoga, matcha brunches and ayuhuasca retreats it got conservative-coded instead of liberal-coded along culture lines.
You are being disingenuous here. The primary and most important thing it did, was religion driven complete submission to husband and complete dependence on him.
> who are reclaiming aspects of femininity which have been stigmatized,
Which would primary be that submission and dependence part. Not gardening vs yoga, plenty of progressives have gardens and don't do yoga. Also, having kids is not stigmatized.
> but because it has a veneer of similarity to pre-feminist norms
If he beats you, it is your fault for not being obedient enough is definitely pre-feminist norm. Which is part and parcel of the culture these women embraced and are from.