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But yes you are right it would have helped a ton.
I know because I was in it once doing your exact same calculations and was out of my mind lonely and stuck. You gotta find a way to believe in “average” and get out of the perfectionist trap. And in retrospect, all my rumination was just pure rumination and self imposed dumb expectations that had no backing in actual reality and what makes a happy marriage and life.
You gotta dare to hope and dare to believe that “settling” is just an idiotic story we tell ourselves after years of psychological programming from movies and pop culture. Every human you will ever meet has infinite worlds within themselves. The only job to be done in dating is finding someone whose inner infinite world you find interesting enough and who finds your inner world interesting enough too.
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Rooting for you mate.
To be clear I think GAs are way cooler though haha. So kudos to you for this awesome write up
Will pricing likely just be a percent markup over the (excellent) Ubicloud prices they have listed? (https://www.ubicloud.com/docs/about/pricing)
But wait… An LLM can’t bake cheesecakes, nor if it could would it be able to evaluate their deliciousness.
Until AI can solve the “God Cheesecake” problem, I propose we all just calm down a bit about AGI
It’s just an embedding space buried within the bowls of the LLM.
Also, none of the solutions discussed here gracefully handle new connections on the new service while waiting for all connections to terminate before shutting down the old service. Maybe some of the more esoteric Ansible do idk.
I TRULY want the simplicity of setups like discussed here, but I can’t help but think it’s irresponsible to recommend them in non hobbyist scenarios.
Also, don’t discount the demotivating effect all the deadweight your equity can have on the team. The success of this startup is far from secure, and if there’s too much dead weight on the cap table, there’s a very real chance your ex partner decides it’s not worth it to keep fighting on this hill and walks away, making everyone’s equity, including yours, worthless.
My advice is to give away what they’re asking in order to maximize your chances of seeing a payoff one fine future day. And because I, personally, believe it’s probably the most fair thing to do.
I was like that for a while and everything was a struggle until I figured out how to meet more of my social needs and need for respect. They’re fundamental human needs and if they’re not getting met, it’s going to be hard to think about anything else.
It really does sound like your current situation is not ideal in terms of your job and social outlets.
Are you ABSOLUTELY sure that the people you care take will be okay without you for five years? In some cases I know of, people think they’re more needed than they actually are, and they have just latched onto the role of caretaker for psychological self defense.
You need a change of some type in your life man. Staying on the your current path seems like a very bad option.
School sounds like a waste to me given what you’ve said about your experience. PRs to popular open source repos is the way you can gain credibility. After that, it shouldn’t be too hard to beg your way into an internship. And then once you’ve broken in, everything should be relatively easy. Also, it sounds to me like you’ve GOT to figure out your loneliness situation with a change in scenery. Maybe live in Costa Rica for a while at a cheap hostel popular with young tourists? Something.
Good luck man. These are my context less, pretty worthless two cents. You have so much potential! Don’t listen to the doubters inside or outside. But you may need to make some hard decisions.
These are the only other ones I would consider
Second in my journey was gaining confidence in myself in social settings, not just romantic ones. Until I could consistently enjoy myself with genuine friends in a low stakes setting, how was I supposed to be able to enjoy myself with potential romantic partners in a high stakes setting?
Third, I had to recalibrate my brain from the tendencies of romantic perfectionism I had picked up on in my years of unrequited yearning. Learning to see girls as human beings, not as idols to be worshipped, was a big change (I know that sounds a bit extreme, but it’s honestly how I was approaching things). I also had to learn to care less about dumb things in romantic partners and focus more on what was truly most important: character, similarity in values, relatability, realistic levels of attraction. As long as I was only searching for someone who could give me those teenage dream vibes, I was basically ceding control of my future romantic happiness to my pituitary glands. Which pop music makes sound great but which is a terrible plan here on planet earth when talking about something so essential to your long term happiness as romantic connection and family.
So there you have it, the simple three step process that got me happily married to the love of my life and launched me into the joys of fatherhood and 2 am newborn feedings. YMMV. Good luck - you’ll figure it out.
Would be more than happy to give you my perspective and what it's been like as a small, moderately successfuly SaaS founder. Ping me at scottmas@altmails.com